Candace Lightner

   Writing is a passion of mine. I admire those who can write articles that are easy to read, grammatically correct and entertaining. Maybe in my next life...

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A hodgepodge of what matters to me.


Do You Have the Courage to Intervene?

How many times have you been a passenger in a vehicle where the driver was speeding, or speaking on their phone or Bluetooth, or had had a couple of drinks before getting behind the wheel. You likely bit your tongue, rationalizing that you didn’t want to meddle or sound like a “backseat driver” by telling them you felt uncomfortable with their driving choices. To speak up might feel awkward, right? Or you want to speak up but you don’t know what to say without ruining the relationship. I have often said that silence is the biggest enabler of all. [Read More...]

Mommy High Five article - by Jessica

Candace Lightner: MADD Founder and Inspiring MomSeptember 29, 2021 By Jessica You would be hard-pressed to find someone who hasn’t heard of Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD). Like most people, I’ve long known about the organization and what they stand for. But I recently met the remarkable woman behind... [Read More...]

How I Survived My First and Hopefully Last Fire

Recently I survived a fire in our apartment building that left around 60 people “displaced” according to the fire department. It seems like such an understated word when you realize these people lost everything. They will have to obtain new lodgings temporarily until they can find something permanent and start all over. Luckily, no one was seriously hurt, the animals were all safe and those of us who were not directly impacted by the fire were able to return to our apartments after about 5 hours. [Read More...] 4.jpg  3.jpg  2.jpg  1.jpg  IMG-5246.jpg 

Why I support California SB 350 Alexandra’s Law

Why I support California SB 350 Alexandra’s Law that would require individuals convicted of illegally manufacturing or distributing controlled substances, to be forewarned they can be charged with murder if someone dies as a result of their actions. [Read More...]

Change Doesn’t Have to Be Violent

I have watched with horror at the recent violence at our nation's capital. I couldn't help but reflect back on a group of angry grieving mothers who were able to change a culture, change laws and save lives without breaking any laws or displaying any violence. Our weapons were facts, not pie in the sky conspiracy theories or conjecture based on one deranged man's opinion who was terrified of losing. We debated opposition, again with proven facts from a number of sources, not rhetoric that inflamed and incited people to kill and destroy but carefully researched arguments that convinced people we were on the right course. Our strategy was reinforced by our success. [Read More...]

Must We Accept Gun Violence in Our Schools as the New Norm?

Another mass shooting, multiple deaths, injuries and much weeping. This one in another school. We cry, we are horrified, we scream gun reform. People take sides, it remains very political, we organize a march, host candlelight vigils and then what? I feel the pain of the families and I understand their anger and desire for change. I experienced many of these same feelings when my daughter was run over by a multiple repeat offender drunk driver and thrown 125 feet in the road to die. He was still driving on a valid California driver’s license. All I wanted to do was scream, why and how could this happen. But it did over and over again.  [Read More...]

Coping with Grief During the Holidays

“Mourning is the most intense process that most people ever go through. Grief is complex, unpredictable and primal. Many people are frightened by it-frightened by feeling it, frightened by seeing in others. Fortunately, there are ways to move through it, and those ways all involve expressing your feelings. If you act upon your grief, you will make room in your life and in your heart for hope and happiness. If you suppress it, it sticks around forever. However, unpleasant or disturbing some of those feelings may be, there is no benefit in trying to ignore them.” [Read More...]

Self-Sacrifice, Arrogance, and the Decision to Wear a Mask and Physically Distance

This article is written by a friend of mine, Ken Druck, and I wanted to share it here.May 19, [Read More...]

Living Your Values - Webcast

My webcast with Hitendra Wadhwa. [Read More...]

Meet a Living Legend Who Has Changed Our World

Dear Friend, At our core, each of us possesses a set of values that we deeply identify with. And yet, in our everyday lives, we drift away from our core from time to time. What might life be if we fused our every thought and action with our deeply-felt values? How can we change our outer world when it conflicts with our inner world? Join me... [Read More...]

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